How I Almost Went to the Dark Side

12 Jul

Opinions are important.

If you take the time and initiative to form one, it shows that you are thinking, and that is the sign of a healthy mind, and one that is not content to be passive in every issue. I respect that.

By the way: today’s message comes to you from the girl who shouted angry verbal abuse at her email inbox for an inordinate amount of time after receiving a correspondence from someone with a different point of view from hers.

Wait though, before you start judging me, know that she insulted my favorite book.

So, see? It’s hardly an overreaction that I’ve worked up enough hostility to expect Emperor Palpatine to walk through the door any second and invite me to join the Dark Side.

If you’re a book lover, chances are you’ve felt my pain. In fact, if you’ve ever passionately enjoyed any medium of entertainment, you’ve probably felt it.

You’re having a conversation with someone, and everything is going just fine until the topic of literature, music, or television comes up. You ask the person how they feel about a certain novel or band or show, or whatever it is – you make sure to leave out the bit about how much irrational love you have for it. You are testing the waters to see if they share your clearly impeccable taste.

And then they say it. They have an opinion. And heaven forbid – it is not yours.

There are nice ones, who present their bad experience in a less-than-overly-critical way.

And then there are the ones like I read in an email a couple days ago. The ones that are meant to pick apart the subject matter, but instead are received like personal attacks. I read the message and, although the offending individual was only insulting A Wrinkle in Time, I felt as though she were calling my newborn daughter[nonexistent] an ugly, disgusting piece of trash.

In a case like mine, one is left with only three options:

  • Respond with an all-caps email that informs the person that they have a horrific lack of taste and that you hope they “STEP ON A LEGO EVERY DAY FOR AN ENTIRE WEEK”
  • Respond with a kind email that points out the parts of the book that had a profound effect on you and ask whether the person would consider going over them again
  • Stew angrily and not reply at all; avoid eye contact in future run-ins; never mention subject matter again

Guess which one I chose.

No, not the first one, who do you think I am? Wow, guys.

I’m very possessive of the things I love, and in a lot of cases, that’s perfectly fine, even beneficial. But when it comes to something like this, I need to let it go.

Chances are, in my line of interests, this is going to happen to me again, and it will likely happen to you as well. The Sith Lord of fandom-fury will reach out to us again.

“The hate is swelling in you now… Give in to your anger. With each passing moment you make yourself more my servant.”

When this happens, we need to step back, raise our  light sabers, and say, “No.” No, we will control our anger, not be controlled by it. We will love what we love but not hate others for it not loving it. And, actually, while we’re at it, we should probably invest in light sabers.

Thus ends today’s rant. Let me know if something like this has happened to you before, and whether you dealt with it better than I did.

If you need me, I’ll be re-reading A Wrinkle in Time so I can console her and remind her how beautiful she is.

9 Responses to “How I Almost Went to the Dark Side”

  1. Invisable Woman July 12, 2013 at 3:34 pm #

    My! What a wondrous, fandom-filled post! With a virtual slap of profundity included at the closing!
    You never disappoint, my dear 🙂

    And, if it makes you feel better, I’m on your side……..We should all definitely invest in lightsabers.

    • Emory July 12, 2013 at 4:33 pm #

      Thank you, my dear Susan Storm!
      When we talked about this the other day, I’m sure you knew there was no way this was going un-blogged-about. 😉 Also – I call the green light saber.

  2. geekygirl91 July 13, 2013 at 3:14 am #

    Oh,I know how you feel! I had the same feeling when I heard someone attack Harry Potter. It’s one of my favourite books of all time and I felt like someone was slapping my face hard. Virtually speaking, of course, but it hurt! ç_ç *cries in a corner*

    And I also feel like I’m going to the dark side (we have Loki– I mean,cookies!). Oh,that charming siren, that voice that makes you wanna start a flame war and eat all the ice cream left in the fridge.
    But I was stronger! °^°/

    • Emory July 13, 2013 at 8:04 pm #

      I know it hurts! Why does it hurt so much?
      And ah, yes, Loki. He makes the dark side ever more appealing. However, I commend you on your strength! 😀

  3. Merrilee Lewis July 15, 2013 at 10:28 am #

    Yup! Stay strong, girl ❤

    • Emory July 15, 2013 at 10:30 am #

      Thank you, dearest! 🙂

  4. Kristy Daum July 25, 2013 at 7:15 am #

    I definately understand your frustration, I’ve been there myself quite a few times. Letting people see “inside your bubble” is tricky, because you never know if they will understand. When it happened to me, I too was screaming inside; but put on a smile and changed topics.

    What’s funny though is that when I mention bringing people to “The Dark Side”, I actually mean that I’m welcoming them into the fandom. I’ve “turned” quite a few friends onto Doctor Who and even got a friend addicted to Sherlock…hehehe.

    • Emory July 25, 2013 at 10:51 am #

      Good for you! It’s hard to keep your cool in a situation like that. You should be proud!
      And I love to hear the fandom world described as “The Dark Side,” it makes it sound just as epic as it really is. Congratulations on turning your friends to the fandom! Keep on keeping on! 🙂


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